Teen’s (?)- Pre-Adult’s (?) problem?

Hi! I’m back with another discussion of my real life problem! I want to share a problem that has been bothering me for these past years. for your information, I’m 19 so I don’t know either to call myself a teenager or a pre adult (?). As you can guess, the problem relates to this. So! People around me are calling me childish and too innocent for a girl around my age, so do my parents. Though I’m fine with that, but I am not fine with what my mom asked me.

what my mom asked me is to change my fashion sense/ style to be maturer. This is what I can’t do (maybe for now). To be clearer, I usually wear a t-shirt and a short when going out to a mall. I think I’m what people called as a tomboy, though! I also love cute clothing, this allows me to shift between tomboy clothing style and the cute one. however, my mom or people around me don’t really like it. They thought it’s time for me to appear maturer since I just graduated from my Bachelor Degree. I should be more feminine, wear dress or skirt most of the time and look more expensive (with those branded things they bought me). But that’s not me, that’s what I always think to defend myself.

however, just now they tried to make it clearer for me, why do they want me to change my appearance. that’s because they want me to look more elite, to be accepted with the professionals community, and so on, which are good for me. They said why can’t I look around me when I went to mall, people around my age are dressing herself with makeup, heels, dress, and so on, why can’t I? I like to be like them though, they look so beautiful but I don’t know why I don’t really fond of picturing myself in those styles. I’m afraid to look older that my age, I always love it when people tell me that I look young.

I think it’s time to change my appearance. because I know my mom and people around me want me to be better that what I am right now. I don’t know how can I start since I don’t even know how to put on make up, I don’t have heels (except 1 that is for my presentation test in Univ) or mature looking dresses. Let’s see if I can change myself even though it’s not completely because I want it to be but for my mom or others around me I’m willing to change myself. I hope I can do it though I WILL face many problems when trying to get there.

Yeah.. that’s what I wanna share with Internet people. have you ever felt this way? what do you think I should do? Is this always happen to people around my age? :/ Gimme your thoughts!

*pict of me (not real tattoo~ parents will get super mad if I have one XP )Image

*Btw this post is made 3 years ago on my other blog LOL and since that blog only has 2 posts, I decided to just focus on this one and move the 2 posts here!😄

Australian? Racist? NOPE

Oh hi! This will be my first post in this newly born blog! I would love to clarify about how people said that Australians are racists. I just got back from my trip there and I found that Australia is one of the most tourist friendly countries that I ever visited! Before starting, I think it’s better for me to clarify my race. I’m an asian, an Indonesian to be exact, which makes me look different from the Australians. So I think it’s acceptable for me to say that Australian is not racist since I can be distinguished from them easily. So here’s my experience there.

  • They answer every of your question!

As I never went to Australia before, I didn’t know the street names, the way, and everything else that you need to know when you want to go to an attraction or back to your hotel. And I am so bad in reading a map, so Google Map didn’t really help me. The only thing that I could do is to ask literally every 15 minutes in my way to the destination. Know what? Every time I asked, they answered! EVERY TIME! (Except if they don’t know the way, even if they don’t know, they’ll tell you where and how to get the information or even they’ll use their own google map application to tell you the way!) I’m so grateful that they help me! (If you’re an Australian reading this post, I thank you so much!) Even in one night, when me and my family wanted to go back to our hotel and it’s raining so badly (It’s fall or almost winter over there, so when it’s raining, at night, it’s so windy and cold) and we didn’t know how to get back to the hotel, again.. we asked someone who waited for the traffic light to turn green because he’s the only one around. He didn’t bring any umbrella like us, but still he explain to us clearly how to get back to our hotel, even if the traffic light went red again (I’m so sorry to trouble you! sorry! and thank you!). So yeah.. they are so tourist friendly!

  • They help you even if you don’t ask for help!

So this was a story when me and my family wanted to travel to the other side of Sydney that requires us to take a train. We has used a train before of course, but since it’s the first time we use a train there, it took us a quite long time to know which line should we use. when we examined the lines on the screen, the Australian behind us offered to help. I was shocked that it takes me like 5 seconds to be able to speak to her. I told her where we want to go and he bought us our tickets! (again, Thank you!) this is my first time overseas, that someone offered to help even if you didn’t ask for it!

  • Great Teacher

Okay.. this maybe a bit shameless of me, but my mom asked me to do it. So I just graduated from my Bachelor study and I (really) want to work in Australia (since my Bachelor Degree is from Australian university, I went there for my graduation trip actually.) Knowing this, My mom force me to ask the receptionist of our Hotel to scan my Bachelor degree certificate, she said “maybe they had a job vacancy and ask you to work for them after they saw your certificate (which is of course will not happen) and make sure you ask them if they have one!” with this, I encourage myself to do what my mom told me, except the one that requires me to ask if they have a job vacancy since I’m quite a shy person especially when I don’t know the person. So the only thing I asked is for him to scan my certificate and send it to my email (which he did it instantly!!) and even with all of my courage, I can only ask him about “what is the best University to pursue a master degree in business here?” (STUPID ME!) to my surprise, he answered me!! he explains about the top 8 universities there, his university, his experience, his job, he even taught me that “no matter how good your university is, what really matters is your personal branding, because employer doesn’t care about your University or marks, they want to know if you have a personality, skills that they want or not.” THIS IS! this is the first time someone who I don’t even know teach me something this precious!

so yeah, these are my experiences of the kindness of Australian! Do you have your experience too? tell me!

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*Btw this post is made 3 years ago on my other blog LOL and since that blog only has 2 posts, I decided to just focus on this one and move the 2 posts here! XD